December 28, 2020
Setting Effective Goals
Data shows that although 60% of people make New Year’s resolutions, after six months have passed, less than half follow through on them. By the end of the year, less than 10% are actually successful.
This indicates that the way people are setting goals, in particular New Year’s resolutions, is clearly not working. It’s not sticking. Let’s unpack this and dig into why that’s the case.
The first issue is that many of us aren’t recognizing and addressing our limiting beliefs before we set out to achieve our goals. Without addressing deep-rooted limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough,” or “I don’t belong,” etc., you’re going to be unsuccessful because there will be unconscious conflict – you’re sabotaging yourself. There’s a part of you that wants to achieve the goal, but there’s also a part of you that is getting in the way of that process.
So the first step in setting effective goals is to take some time to become aware of all your limiting beliefs. Take the time to actually write them down. Then we can begin the process of trading your limiting beliefs for empowering truths.
Now, next to each limiting belief, write down a corresponding empowering truth. For example, next to “I’m not good enough,” you could write down “I am capable of learning any new skill.” If the phrase was “I don’t belong,” then my new phrase may be “I have so much to offer and contribute to the world.”
It all starts with the right perspective and you want to make sure you’re not working against yourself as you start the new year with fresh resolutions.
The next tip for setting effective goals is to think about goal setting within the framework of these six different categories: Health, Relationships, Career, Finances, Personal Development and Spirituality.
Try to set at least one goal per category. Below are some things you should think about as you refine your list:
1. Be Specific
When you set goals, you want to set goals that are easily measured and tracked. For example, “I want to lose weight” isn’t specific enough. You need to get more specific and say something like, I want to lost 10 pounds by the end of the year or something like that.
2. Know Your Why
A lot of us when we set goals, we don’t take enough time to understand the why. When you start examining your why, you start thinking not about impressing others but why this goal is genuinely important to you. This will help in truly empowering you to reach your goals for yourself and not for anyone else. Make sure your why is big enough to overcome any potential challenge or phases of adversity.
3. Recognize What’s At Stake
Imagine if you didn’t take care of your health and you were a slob. Imagine if you didn’t engage in any self-development and never grew. Once you start thinking about what’s at stake, this becomes motivation.
In addition to the above, it’s helpful to write out specific action items for each of your goals. Also, you should review progress on your goals on a weekly, monthly and quarterly basis. If you keep up in this way, the higher the chances you will be in the fortunate 10% of people who actually succeed with their resolutions.
You’re perfect just the way you are and yet there’s still room for improvement. If you take these tips and work on effective goal setting, I predict you will be even more magnificent, amazing, healthy, abundant, and wise than you are today.
Below are some recommended practices to support you in wrapping up 2020 and looking forward to a brighter 2021: