By Denise
For some of us, an exposed heart is the most vulnerable and fearful place on the planet. For years I lived with a heart infiltrated by fear and skepticism.
In response to my traumas, I adapted a core belief that people hurt, attack or abandon. To protect myself, I’d relentlessly search for evidence to support this story. Inevitably, I’d find it. Regardless of how much time it took to prove my case or any evidence I’d discover to the contrary; like a scavenger dog, I’d find the chow needed to feed my insecurity and justify sabotage.
I had so many walls up. I was abandoned by my father before I was born. I survived an attempted childhood abduction as well as sexual assault as a young adult. Needless to say, my trust tank was running on empty.
But finally, I reached a point in my life where I was ready to release and heal. I was ready to dismantle my old belief system and tell myself a new story. And let me tell you, that’s where some real work began. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. You’re worth it. Do the work. Freedom and inner peace await you on the other side.
Are you ready to live with a more open heart? If so, below are some lessons I learned along the way.
Always protect your heart.
Being open to love, doesn’t mean being foolish or reckless with your heart. Your time, your love, your commitments are gifts. Choose wisely with whom you share.
Listen.
Don’t create a story of illusion that isn’t supported by someone’s words and actions.
Accept.
Don’t judge or try to change someone. THEY are free to be whomever and how ever they choose to be. YOU get to choose whether you give them access to you or not. Stay empowered.
Honor you.
Know what you can and cannot live with for an extended period of time. Chemistry is not necessarily compatibility. Both are very important.
As always, below are some recommended heart-based practices to support you in your journey:
https://asdijo12.wpengine.com/classes/calibrate-to-your-heart/
https://asdijo12.wpengine.com/classes/developing-loving-kindness/
https://asdijo12.wpengine.com/classes/strong-dancer-with-denise-antoine/
https://asdijo12.wpengine.com/classes/intuition/